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Bethany Miller, Psy.D.
Licensed Psychologist #17138


3020 Fillmore St.

San Francisco, CA 94123

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1683 Novato Blvd. Suite 1B

Novato, CA 94947

 

415-518-7999

 

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HOW DOES YOUR MARRIAGE RATE?

By Bethany Miller, Psy.D.

     Circle the most appropriate number for each statement.

     1 = Never   5 = Always

1.  My mate and I agree on how to solve problems.  1 2 3 4 5
2.  My mate and I resolve our conflicts and are able to compromise. 1 2 3 4 5
3.  My mate and I treat each other with respect.  1 2 3 4 5
4.  My mate and I agree on sexual satisfaction.  1 2 3 4 5
5.  My mate and I agree on how to handle our finances. 1 2 3 4 5
6.  My mate and I agree on a philosophy of child rearing. 1 2 3 4 5
7.  My mate and I spend plenty of time together doing enjoyable things.  1 2 3 4 5
8.  My mate and I agree on matters of religion/philosophy of life. 1 2 3 4 5
9.  My mate and I agree on issues of nutrition, exercise and health.  1 2 3 4 5
10.My mate and I are faithful and committed to each other. 1 2 3 4 5

     Score:

     40 – 50         Congratulations!  You and your mate have all the ingredients for a satisfying and healthy relationship.

     30 – 39        Your relationship is probably satisfying, but you may want to communicate with your partner about any areas above that are causing conflict or problems.

     Under 30     Time to do a couple-assessment.  Is there frequent conflict or arguing in your relationship? Is there any physical or verbal abuse?  Do either of you have a problem with drugs or alcohol? Do you find yourself withdrawing from your partner?   Talking to a therapist might help you clarify your relationship problems and find ways to reduce conflict and improve satisfaction in your relationship.