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Bethany Miller, Psy.D.
Licensed Psychologist #17138


3020 Fillmore St.

San Francisco, CA 94123

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1683 Novato Blvd. Suite 1B

Novato, CA 94947

 

415-518-7999

 

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HOW WELL ARE YOU MANAGING YOUR FRIENDSHIPS?

By Bethany Miller, Psy.D.

     Circle the most appropriate number for each statement.

     1 = Never   5 = Always

1.  I feel I have close friends.  1 2 3 4 5
2.  I know there are people I can count on. 1 2 3 4 5
3.  There is both give and take in my friendships.  1 2 3 4 5
4.  I enjoy spending time with my friends.  1 2 3 4 5
5.  My friends are respectful of my values and life choices. 1 2 3 4 5
6.  If I have a conflict with a friend we can talk it out. 1 2 3 4 5
7.  I feel happy for my friends (rather than envious) when good things happen to them.  1 2 3 4 5
8.  I enjoy supporting and receiving support from my friends. 1 2 3 4 5
9.  If my friend gives me feedback, I can trust that she is thinking of my best interests.  1 2 3 4 5
10.My friendships are a joy, not a burden. 1 2 3 4 5

     Score:

     40 – 50        Congratulations!  You are enjoying healthy and satisfying friendships.

     30 – 39        You have some important relationships, but there is room for improvement.  Perhaps you want to discuss with your friend any areas above that may be problematic.

     Under 30     Time to do a friend-assessment.  What is getting in the way of having satisfying and supportive friendships?  Do you feel that you that people are taking advantage of you? Are you too nice? Are you isolated?  Is depression or anxiety getting in your way? Talking to a therapist might help you clarify your obstacles to building healthy friendships.