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Bethany Miller, Psy.D.
Licensed Psychologist #17138


3020 Fillmore St.

San Francisco, CA 94123

 

415-518-7999

 

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DO YOU HAVE GOOD BOUNDARIES?

By Bethany Miller, Psy.D.

     Circle the most appropriate number for each statement.

     1 = Never   5 = Always

1.  I take the time to decide whether or not potential relationships will be good for me.  1 2 3 4 5
2.  I can say NO to things I do not want to do. 1 2 3 4 5
3.  I have self -respect (I don't give in too much in the hope that someone will like me).  1 2 3 4 5
4.  I don't let people walk all over me.  1 2 3 4 5
5.  I am able to trust others appropriately. 1 2 3 4 5
6.  I maintain my personal values, despite what others want. 1 2 3 4 5
7.  I know who I am and what I want. 1 2 3 4 5
8.  I can tell when someone is invading my personal boundaries. 1 2 3 4 5
9.  I am able to communicate my needs and wants.  1 2 3 4 5
10.I don't allow others to take advantage of my generosity and I don't take advantage of others. 1 2 3 4 5

     Score:

     40 – 50        Congratulations!  You have strong, healthy boundaries.

     30 – 39        You have some good boundaries, but there is room for improvement.  You may want to explore ways that you feel insecure or taken advantage of.

     Under 30     Time to do a self-assessment.  Do you feel that you that people like a doormat? Are you too nice? Do you feel unsure of yourself? Talking to a therapist might help you clarify your obstacles to building healthy boundaries.