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Bethany Miller, Psy.D.
Licensed Psychologist #17138


3020 Fillmore St.

San Francisco, CA 94123

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1683 Novato Blvd. Suite 1B

Novato, CA 94947

 

415-518-7999

 

HOW WELL ARE YOU BALANCING MOTHERHOOD?

By Bethany Miller, Psy.D.

     Circle the most appropriate number for each statement.

     1 = Never   5 = Always

1.  I get pleasure from being a mother.   1 2 3 4 5
2.  I get enough sleep. 1 2 3 4 5
3.  I feel that my intellect is stimulated   1 2 3 4 5
4.  I have enough energy.   1 2 3 4 5
5.  I have opportunities to nurture my personal interests. 1 2 3 4 5
6.  I get enough exercise and proper nutrition. 1 2 3 4 5
7.  I feel my children are receiving the nurturing, support and guidance they need.  1 2 3 4 5
8.  I have "me" time during the week when I don't have to think about taking care of someone else. 1 2 3 4 5
9.  My mate is an active partner in parenting.   1 2 3 4 5
10.My mate and I have “couple” time to do pleasurable activities or just talk. 1 2 3 4 5

     Score:

     40 – 50        Congratulations!  You are taking good care of yourself while balancing the many demands of motherhood.

     30 – 39        Things are O.K., but you may start to feel depleted.  Give yourself permission to get your needs met more often.  Ask your partner to pitch in more, get help from family/friends, and/or pay for help.

     Under 30     Time to do a self-assessment.  What is getting in the way of getting your needs met?  Do you feel guilty or “selfish” if you do things for yourself? Is it difficult for you to ask for help?  Is depression or anxiety getting in your way? Are there problems in your marriage?  Talking to a therapist might help you clarify your obstacles and find ways to get your needs met.